thanks for the comments and suggestions. my favorite was doug miller's (liko's husband) idea to go get a new drivers license and say that i was divorced so it would have my maiden name! ha!
i am happy to say (type?) that betsy found my marriage certificate! yippie! so it is being sent here.
-i looked into amending my passport but they will only do that if you have been married less than a year. poo.
-after pleading for my name on my ticket to be changed, the customer sercvice person told me to just show up at the airport with my wedding certificate, license, and passport and that would be fine. then i talked to another customer service person that said "no way! don't even think about coming if your license and passport names are different." poo again.
i have two options left at this point:
-first is to go LA to get a new passport. the problem is you can't even make an appointment with LA till you are less than 14 days away from travel. and then another customer service person (i was on the phone a lot yesterday) told me that it is really hard to get an appointment and that i need to start calling at 12:01 thursday morning to try and get one. and then if i do get one, then it might not even be till the day before we leave. and they can't even guarantee that they will have the passport done that day. poo three times.
-the fourth and final option, is to use a private company that will guarantee a passport in a certain time frame- but you pay for it. basically, if i can't get an appointment with the dudes in la at least 3 days before we leave i will have to do this for a good $250 at least. but at least i will have it.
i am usually not a stress case but right now i am a big frazzled ball of nerves. we got our tickets 3 or 4 months ago and i pestered luke about getting his new passport. didn't even think of mine. i feel like such a moron. i would try the whole go to the airport with my passport like it is now, but what if they wouldn't change things or let me go? and what if the people in barcelona decide to not let me into the country- or out of it? although, that would be a fun adventure!
so, in this case we are thinking it is better to pay and be safe than risk it.
and why are we going to spain? luke has a 3 week break between terms this august. everything sort of lined up perfectly to go (ha!) and so we booked tickets! luke served his mission in spain and so we are going back to his old stomping grounds to do everything he was not able to do as a missionary and have a ton of fun!
so there you have it. thanks for your love. hopefully i will have more good news to come!