how to raise the perfect girl.
which is probably totally different for every mother of a little girl, i am sure my deffiniton of a perfect girl is way different than yours. random sampling of what is in my definition of the prefect girl: to not be afraid to drop-in on a over-head wave, confident and comfortable with who she is, be willing to take care of business in the great outdoors- or public lake settings (sorry about that mom), cook nutritious and delicious meals, don't be afraid to sweat or get dirty, find joy in woman and motherhood, be selfless not selfish...
i am sure that depending our interest and experiences in life have been, we all want and value different things in life, which reflects how we want our children to end up.
while sitting watching velzy at gymnastics the other day- did i mention she is in gymnastics? she loves it and it's so funny watching her, especially jumping on the trampoline where her long, skinny legs fly all over the place and she has no control. it's hysterical. anyways, i was sitting listening to one mom talk to another- i am a big eavesdropper- about all this drama with her friends and how they blocked her from some online group and then her family drama, and complaining about watching her kids, when it occurred to me- her daughters are probably going to turn out just like her. i know, not everyone ends up like their mother, but it seems to me that the apple usually does not fall far from the tree. and she is probably a nice person, i just don't want to hang with her. did i back-peddle enough?
this whole eavesdropping experience made me think about my girls and how i hope they will keep a good head on their shoulders through whatever life has to hand them. i hope that-even if they don't want to surf, or like to cook- they will be genuinely happy, kind people. and for the time being, it is up to me to set a good example of these things. and that my friends, is a little scary.